That got your attention didn’t it! In my background as a beauty therapist and more recently in my Divorce and Relationship Coaching role, I have seen how stress can affect hormones, the skin and other aspects of clients’ lives and relationships. I have researched the impact of hormones in both the female and male reproductive systems and the adrenal system and I encourage my clients to become familiar with the impact of hormones, not only with their stress levels but also on their sexual drive and desire.

Intimacy is not just about sex and touch. While we need touch and sexual intimacy to keep a relationship alive, we also need to cultivate intimacy in all its manifestations. Long term committed relationships need to be nurtured to ensure they thrive. There are four types of intimacy that will help relationships to flourish. We all need our own varying degrees of each type of intimacy in our relationship depending on our personalities and personal preferences.

In this Blog the focus is on how to communicate with your children if the other parent is absent. As a coach my goal is to help as many families as possible put a fair and amicable co-parenting agreement in place, where at all possible. As a mum myself, I do understand how hard it is to let go of being a full-time parent to your child/ren. I believe that children do need both parents in their lives with the proviso that both parents are emotionally and mentally fit to co-parent successfully and the children are safe in either home.

One of the key lessons I have learnt from my own divorce and from my speciality training in helping others find ways to effectively communicate is…. Well the main thing is… LET IT GO! Let go of the hurt, anger and pain. Find other ways to deal with your emotions. Do not bring your emotional hurts to the communication table when you are negotiating ANYTHING with your ex.

How do you know if the person you’ve been dating is ‘the One’? What do you need from a partner and how can you look for the signs that you are dating someone who is worthy of you? Take some time to reflect on the following points and you will be one step closer to finding ‘the One’!

Resilience is something you have to work on, and not stop putting the work in to! It doesn’t come easy and it won’t happen as fast as you would like it too either. Yet, with time and perseverance you CAN rebuild/ build your resilience.

After years of careful saving and contributing to Kiwisaver, Murdoch was excited about buying his first home. On learning that Murdoch’s partner was going to be living in the home with him, Murdoch’s conveyancing lawyer quickly sent him to see me for a Contracting Out Agreement.

Ten Tips around communication with your children during separation/divorce. Read on if you want to look back in years to come and know you did all you could to make this transition in your children’s life as painless as practically possible. Look back and say I was the best parent I could be at the time!

You know you are marrying the right person when you have mastered these ten features of a successful relationship.

In my profession as a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, I have built a Portfolio of experts to refer clients going through separation or divorce. I have spent a substantial amount of time meeting with Barristers, family lawyers, mediators, financial experts, mortgage brokers, real estate agents, counsellors and psychologists, and the like.

As a divorce coach I can assist those going through separation and divorce and the many varying stages of these processes. From thinking about initiating separation, to going through it and also the coming out the other side of it phase too.

This can be a tricky one, and an all-important next step. If you want it to go well get it right the first try.

You are coming out of the haze that is separation and divorce, it’s true… it takes two years to truly find yourself again after coming out of any long term relationship.

I’ve spent many many hours in my career listening to women complain about their partners and how their needs are not being met. And I have also listened to men say they just don’t understand women, even if they have been married to them for 15 or more years, they still don’t understand their thinking.

Did you spend your holiday reconnecting or disconnecting from your significant other? When we think about the holidays we imagine sun, laughter, relaxation, fun family time, socialising….. Was that your reality these holidays or was this just an unreal expectation?

I’ve been doing a bit of reading of late about relationships and hormones and healthy living with clean eating , (yes separately, as that’s how I roll – 3 books on the go at one time- but they all do intertwine.

After separation followed by the inevitable divorce, at some point you have to realise that life must go on, and so must you! It’s easy to fall into the trap of denial or resentment and become paralyzed by inaction.